"Why should anyone get married?
"Why," the argument goes, "should the state be involved in people's private romantic and sexual relationships? Why should personal commitments be a public matter, something people throw big expensive parties for so their friends and families can watch? Why should people make promises to stay together for the rest of their lives -- promises with legal responsibilities attached, no less -- when they know that so many marriages end in divorce? Why are we spending time and energy fighting for same-sex marriage? Why aren't we abandoning the institution of marriage altogether?"
As someone who is married (Ingrid and I are among the roughly 18,000 same-sex couples in California who got our weddings in after the courts legalized same-sex marriage and before Prop 8 eradicated that right), I'd like to try to answer that question.
Thus begins my latest piece on the Blowfish Blog, Why Get Married? To find out why I think the institution of marriage has value, and why I want to participate in it, read the rest of the piece. (And if you feel inspired to comment here, please consider cross-posting your comment to the Blowfish Blog -- they like comments there, too.) Enjoy!