Anyway. Back to the question at hand. If the question were simply, "Are there men who want casual, non-romantic sex with no strings attached?" the answer would have to be a vigorous, "Yes! Of course! What planet have you been living on that you even have to ask that question? The world is loaded with men who would treat this offer as a gift from every god they'd ever imagined. And while some of these men are selfish game-players, others are decent, ethical men who'll be as honest with you as they can about what they do and don't have to give. Be careful -- but go for it."
But I don't think that's the right question here.
I don't think that's the question I should be answering.
The question I think I should be answering is one that this commenter didn't ask. It's one that she assumed she knew the answer to. And I think the answer she's come up with is wrong -- seriously wrong.
The question I think I should be answering is, "Since I got my heart broken by a lying jerk, should I assume that love is always a lie, give up on romantic love forever, and just get my sexual needs met with no-strings sex?"
The answer to that question is a vigorous "No."
That's an excerpt from my latest piece on the Blowfish Blog, No-Strings Sex, Disappointing Love, and Asking the Wrong Questions. To find out more about the situation I'm talking about -- and why I think no-strings sex isn't the answer to this woman's problems -- read the rest of the piece. (And if you're inspired to comment here, please consider cross-posting your comment to the Blowfish Blog -- they like comments there, too.) Enjoy!
Well, it seems difficult to think of a question with a more obvious answer, but I will nonetheless read the article: "by Greta Christina" has proved to be a seal of excellent quality so far.
Posted by: Valhar2000 | January 06, 2010 at 03:38 PM
Okay, I've read it, and it was excellent.
Posted by: Valhar2000 | January 06, 2010 at 03:46 PM
It's not that I have a personal problem with "no strings attached" sex, it's that sometimes it is used as an escape to avoid being close to others after being burned. If that's the case, this woman should make sure she is getting support from family and loved ones, or even see a shrink if need be.
Posted by: David Hornal | January 07, 2010 at 01:35 AM