I have a new piece up on the Blowfish Blog. In it, I take a break from criticizing all the things that are wrong with our sexual culture... and take a moment to remind us of all the drastic ways that our sexual culture has improved, just in my own not- that- long- lifetime.
It's titled Sexual Optimism And A Changing World, and here's the teaser:
When I was born, the very idea of female sexual pleasure, and the idea that women had as much right to sexual pleasure as men, was shocking and controversial. Today, the notion that women actually enjoy sex, and that we have a right to ask for the kinds of sex we enjoy, is generally understood and accepted. (At least, more so than it was 47 years ago. Even right wing Christian evangelicals are pushing the idea of sexually satisfying marriages... satisfying for both partners, not just men.)
When I was born, it was generally assumed that women in an office were there (a) for the sexual enjoyment of men, and (b) to catch husbands. Today, it is generally assumed that women in an office are there to get some work done.
When I was born, birth control was still illegal in about half of the States in the U.S.... and the birth control methods that were available were ineffective, dangerous, or both. Today, birth control is legal, widely available, available in a variety of forms, and much safer -- thus enabling women to enjoy sex without the constant fear of unwanted pregnancy.
To read more, read the rest of the piece. (And if you're inspired to comment here, please consider cross-posting your comments to the Blowfish Blog. They like comments there, too.) Enjoy!