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Elaine Williams

As a widow of four years, I find this is a wonderful, poignant post about death and dying, a topic many times that is pushed aside or ignored, if possible. I agree with you....I've found myself that facing the demon, the fear of death and the ensuing grief of losing a loved one, is one of the best remedies for moving through your grief, in your own time. Thank you. elaine

Thank you once again for an excellent post... nah...Article! Better than many I find in the MSM. And dealing with a tough subject too.
My own luvly midlife crisis at the moment was thrown into stark rekief yesterday when our fat cuddly ginger cat Winston up and croaked suddenly. I knew something was really wrong, so I picked him up and took him into the kitchen away from my lil girls (a 3 year old doesn't need to watch the cat die) and he just went limp in my arms gave a last big gasp as I put him down, and was gone. It was just so sad to see this part of your life just stop like that. I feel it will be quite some time before I can get that image out of my mind.
And of course I am so not the type to handle dead animals well unless they've been adequately prepared for the kitchen, not dead on the kitchen floor, so I had to call my wife home from work and take the kids to Nana's until the poor guy was taken away.

So once again Thank you Greta for another timely and poignant piece.

Lets talk about sex next time, Death can be a bit of a bummer...


Yes! Thank you for yet another inspiring post providing a new look at a common problem.

As an atheist in a very religious family, I've often felt even more pressure to ignore the fear of death, as well as any feelings of despair. I'm afraid to let myself feel those things because that is exactly what my Christian family expects from atheists.

How many times have we heard someone equate atheism (or existentialism, for that matter) with a hopeless, nihilistic worldview? I want to scream at people who make this sweeping generalization, because I know that I am generally a very happy person.

But damn it, I'm allowed to feel these feelings once in a while. Death sucks, and sometimes it makes me feel sucky. When I need the courage to allow myself to have these feelings, I'm coming back to this post.

Donna Gore


I tend to agree with your view that death is a part of the whole process, that nobody is supposed to live forever.

I would love to read your thoughts about this scientist whose goal it is to extend life indefinitely.
"Do You want to Live Forever?"

My first thought was, if everyone lives forever, then where the hell are we gonna put all of them?? We better find some other planets to live on fast, cause if every person who was ever born lived forever, we'd run out of room in a hurry!

What other implications would this have? How about the QUALITY of life vs. the QUANTITY of life? How would it affect people's attitudes about "the sanctity of life"?

I see the classic sci-fi scenario of technology moving faster than the human beings' ability to deal with the consequences. . .

Louise Lewis

Let me join in praising your wonderful article. Your generousity of spirit in sharing what you have learned -- and are continuing to learn -- with others is what it's all about.

Usually, we all have more questions than answers. But 'fessing up to that fact is ok. We all must, at some point in our life, own up to the fact that we are merely human. And that's ok.

As my simple way of giving back, I would like to offer you (and all who read this) a gift copy of my book, "No Experts Needed: The Meaning of Life According to You!" No strings attached... really!

E-mail me your request from my web site: and it'll be own its way. That's all it takes.

Again, thank you for the great post.

take care,
Louise Lewis, Author
No Experts Needed: The Meaning of Life According to You!

Jane Know

Great article. You are so right about this "the best way to deal with difficult and painful emotions is to stop trying to fix them and just let myself feel them." Also through the help of an excellent therapist, I got through this fear (and meta-fear).

She just told me flat-out, "So what? You feel [the emotion I was scared of] and then what? What is the worst that can happen?"

Nothing. You just feel the emotion.

Beth Terry

Greta, I just finished reading this woman's gorgeous tribute to her atheist father in the wake of his recent death, and thought of you and your blog:

It's highly relevant to your post today, but more important, it's beautifully written and very moving.

Stacey C.

I very unexpectedly lost my favorite cousin this weekend. She'd struggled all her life and just when things were looking up for her...she died suddenly and without warning. I hadn't even known she'd been sick. She was one of the few members of my actual family that I felt the better for knowing and having, however obliquely, in my life. This comes after losing our shared grandmother not six months ago. It's been a hard ride...but I take solace in the knowledge that I can honor her through my memories and my works. I plan on donating to a woman's shelter in her name. I plan on writing more about what a wonderful person she was even though she was trapped in a pretty awful set of circumstances. And I'll probably cry some more. Thank you for this wonderful post. It really echoed what I'm feeling right now. I am a complete devotee of yours and this is definitely one of the reasons why.

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