Well, the main thing I was going to say about the Rep. Foley teenage boy dirty text message argle-bargle, Susie Bright has already said, and better than I would have. The upshot: Congress just abolished habeas corpus and legitimized torture, and the story got buried with the department store ads (the SF Chronicle put it on Page 3). But a gay teenage sex scandal in Congress -- that's the lead story everywhere, our top story tonight, front page above the fold, and probably will be for days. (Except for the Chron. The headline story in today's Chron was the Michelin guide giving three stars to only one Bay Area restaurant in its new Bay Area guide. You kind of have to love the Chron sometimes. Foley did make Page 1 -- just not above the fold.)
So here, instead, is the other thing I want to say about the Foley scandal.
I was sixteen when I first had sex. (According to how I defined it at the time, anyway.) I had it with an adult, a man in his thirties. More than once, in fact: the affair lasted roughly a month and a half.
And while I don't think the guy covered himself with glory, I also don't feel that I was molested. My memories of the experience aren't stellar, but they fall into the "stupid decision/learning experience" category -- not the "invasive violation/abuse of power" category. I think the guy was a schmuck, but I don't think he was a predator, and I don't think he was a pedophile.
Before you flip out and hit the comment button, let me be very clear -- I'm not trying to defend Foley. There's a lot of stuff Foley did that the guy I'm talking about didn't do. As far as I know, the guy I fucked didn't make a habit of going for teenagers on a regular basis. He wasn't aggressive or forward about pursuing teenagers, including me. He wasn't taking advantage of political power and status to pursue teenagers -- he didn't really have any to speak of. And, of course, he didn't head up a Congressional caucus on protecting teenagers from people like him. Foley is a Grade A asshole, and I'm watching his fall with shameless, gleeful Schadenfreude. As Molly Ivins once said, Mama may have raised a mean child, but she didn't raise no hypocrites.
And let me be very clear as well -- I support the idea of age of consent laws. They're never going to be perfect -- no matter where you draw it, there are always going to be people under the line who are ready for sex, and people over the line who aren't -- but I get that that's what laws are like. I do think age of consent laws need to be tinkered with (I personally support a three-tiered system, in which under a certain age you're off-limits, between certain ages it's only okay with people close to your age, and over a certain age you're fair game), but I think the basic idea is sound.
My point is this. When we talk about the Foley scandal, I think we need to be extremely careful about we're getting irate about. I don't want to reflexively join in the hysterical chorus about pedophilia and molestation and "won't somebody please think of the children?" There's a big difference between having a thing for 16-year-olds and having a thing for, say, 12-year-olds. Having a thing for 16-year-olds makes you a chicken-hawk -- but it doesn't make you a pedophile. (If it did, everyone who watched the Britney Spears naughty-schoolgirl video with lust in their heart is a pedophile.) In particular, lots of gay men had their first sexual experience as teenagers, with older men -- and lots of those teenagers had warm, positive feelings about the experience, and continue to have those good feelings into adulthood. A good case could be made that adults having sex with 16-year-olds should be against the law, and a good case could certainly be made that it's creepy and fucked-up -- but it doesn't make you an evil despoiler of innocent children.
No, what makes Foley evil is the hypocrisy. What makes Foley evil is that he made political hash out of Scary Disgusting Sexual Predators On The Internet Who Are Trying To Seduce Your Children... while he was using the Internet to try to seduce teenage boys.
And what makes his Republican compatriots evil -- more evil than Foley, I would argue -- is that they apparently knew about the Foley thing and covered it up... while they've been busy frothing at the mouth about those awful liberals who supposedly want to protect criminals and terrorists.
By, you know, granting them habeas corpus and stuff.