So I'm writing this essay about the differences between visual erotica and written erotica, and I wanted to spew about it here for a bit. As a long-time sex writer, I've always felt faintly guilty about the fact that I usually prefer visual smut to the written variety. It's not that I don't enjoy and appreciate good sex writing -- I do -- but it's often more of an aesthetic or cultural appreciation. When it comes to actually getting off, I almost always head for the dirty pictures or videos.
I'm just so very picky about written porn. It's rare to find erotic stories that are as well-written as I want them to be, *and* that hit my own particular erotic buttons (which are very particular indeed). Compared to my own sex fantasies, I almost always find other people's dirty stories a bit disappointing.
And visual porn has this immediacy that I really like. Photos and videos especially: I like the fact that the camera is capturing real people doing real sexual things. It makes it very visceral, and easier for me to suck into my own fantasy world.
But obviously this is very much a matter of taste. After all, I'm a porn/erotica/smut writer myself, so I obviously think sex writing is a pretty cool thing, with potential to be arousing both sexually and otherwise. And it's not like I've never been turned on by a dirty story. There are a few that live in mind and my libido years after having read them. ("The Hit" by Aaron Travis comes to mind...)
So I'm curious about how this works for other people. What do you think? What are the differences for you between written and visual porn? If you enjoy porn, which do you prefer? Or do you prefer comics, with its elements of each? And why?
P.S. My new book is out! My erotic novella, Bending, has just been published as part of the three-novella collection Three Kinds of Asking For It, edited by Susie Bright and published by Simon & Schuster. "Bending" is an erotic novella about a woman who is sexually fixated on being bent over. More broadly, it's about obsession and what happens when you finally get enough of the thing you've been craving.
Three Kinds of Asking For It is in stores (both the physical and the online variety) right now. I'll blog more about it in a few days: in the meantime, you can go to my Website to read an excerpt from it, or get the details of my book tour. Quickie details on the tour: I'll be in San Francisco at A Different Light Books on July 7 (with Susie Bright); Los Angeles at Skylight Books on July 16 (with Jill Soloway of "Six Feet Under" and Susie Bright); New York at Bluestockings on July 19 (just me); and Capitola/Santa Cruz at the Capitola Book Cafe on August 3 (with Susie Bright). Come by and say howdy.